"What Self-Love Really Is"

By Sandra Dawson, MA

America's Most Loving Relationship and Trauma Expert

Many people have a distorted view about the distinction between "loving yourself and loving someone else."

The common view looks something like this. "If you can get someone to love you, then you will love yourself." And off you go, to find the love of your life.

You hope, and you pray that some how, some way, someone will love you and treat you well, never knowing that you are inviting a fantasy bond with someone who lacks self-love just like you do.

A fantasy bond is thinking and feeling, like you have a relationship with someone, but you don't share who you really are with that person. There is no real emotional foundation to a fantasy bond, so it usually ends.

Some even think that the stronger the attraction to another person, the greater the love. This all too common approach to love is a big disappointment, to say the least, for many, many people. It is more like how to break your heart.

When a fantasy bond is broken, it feels like your heart is breaking. It is very painful even though the relationship lacked a real foundation. But while the fantasy bond lacked a real foundation, it was based on truly wanting to love someone and to be loved. How sad. You want love, but your own lack of self-love keeps getting in the way. It keeps you attracting partners to you that lack the same self love you lack.

Loving yourself and loving someone else are far more alike than you or most people think. To Love yourself means valuing and accepting yourself and meeting all of your needs. Loving someone else means valuing and accepting them and being 100% supportive of them meeting their own needs. See how closely alike these are?

And you cannot value and accept someone if the real person is not known.

Who you are must be completely known and answered. Who are you or who is the real you? If you don't know, how can your partner know?

Loving yourself will not only feel great and turn your life around from top to bottom, it will also teach you how to have a relationship with someone else, including children and friends if you want to improve those relationships too.

The question I am asked most often, is "what is a healthy relationship?" Think of a healthy love relationship as one where both partners are taking care of their own needs, while at the same time they are being supportive of the needs of their partner.

The most successful relationships are in fact created by two people who love themselves, and who do not feel guilty about taking care of themselves.

If you are looking for love, then the most important advice I can give you, is for you to be your real self and put that real person out there to be seen and wanted. If you are too afraid to risk doing this, please read my eBook, "How to Fall Madly in Love with Yourself" and talk with me about ways you can learn to love yourself more. I can help you succeed at finding the love of your life. Click here for more information about my eBook or paste this url into your browser:
http://www.LearnHowToLoveYourself.com/fallmadlyinlovewithyourself

If you are already in a relationship that you would like to be happier in, please focus on taking responsibility for meeting your own needs and asking for what you want from your partner. If he or she says no, learn to respond with love and understanding, not with anger and threats. Also, read my eBook, "How to Fall Madly in Love with Yourself" and talk with me about ways you can learn to love yourself more in order to improve every aspect of your love relationship. Click here for more information about my eBook or paste this url into your browser:
http://www.LearnHowToLoveYourself.com/fallmadlyinlovewithyourself

Your life is too short to waste one more minute not loving yourself 100%. Why not take this great opportunity now to improve everything in your life by learning how to fall madly in love with yourself.

My eBook will show you how. It took me over 30 years to learn how to love myself, and now you can use my 15 steps to self-love and achieve success in love and life more easily and faster.

I am looking forward to hearing from you and helping you on your journey to increased self-love.

With love and blessings,

Sandra Dawson, MA
America's Most Loving Relationship and Trauma Expert

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RECIPE FOR SELF LOVE

I want to help motivate you to commit to loving yourself 100% by using my recipe for self-love. People who love themselves have love and money in their lives. They feel happy and they are enjoying the abundance of the universe. You can too, and it is easier than you think, if you can find someone who will tell you truly what you need to do. I am that person.

I used to feel so jealous of people who had money and love. Don't you? Maybe you feel jealous of me. I have both now. I want you to know I started out with nothing. I am truly a self-made woman, and I want to show you how to be a self-made man or woman. I have learned the hard way, and I can make your learning much easier.

First Ingredient: use your jealousy to motivate you. If you see someone who has something you don't have and you want it, use your jealousy to trigger this thought: "how will I get that for myself?" And go to work figuring it out right away. And ask for help if you feel you need it!

Second Ingredient: Develop an attitude of gratitude for what you do have. With gratitude for what you have, you immediately will feel confident. You will be acknowledging what you have accomplished, and that in itself means you have abilities to take care of yourself. Celebrate those abilities and feel good about them starting now. This will help you create a foundation for developing more skills and greater success.

Third Ingredient: Decide what you will do and when you will do it. The human mind will wander everywhere except where you need to go, if you don't decide upon your goals and when you will do them. It's how our brains work. Don't put yourself down, because your mind wanders. Everyone's mind wanders. Discipline yourself with specific decisions about what you will do and when you will do it. You will be amazed with your progress if you do this one thing.

Fourth Ingredient: If you don't know what goals to set for yourself, please read my eBook. I have clearly outlined exactly what you need to do to fall madly in love with yourself. Follow my 15 steps and you will be on the most exciting path to self-love and success that you have ever been on.

Get the 1st Chapter of my ebook, "How to Fall Madly in Love with Yourself" for free and my eNewsletter, "Love Yourself Now" by clicking here: http://www.learnhowtoloveyourself.com

With love and blessings,

Sandra Dawson, MA
Love and Relationship Coach
America's Most Loving Relationship and Trauma Expert

631 228 4361
310 291 2201