One of the biggest problems in relationships is the lack of a true connection.
What is a true connection?
It is a desire to be with someone because you want to share yourself with them and you want them to share themselves with you. The experience of sharing is so gratifying that you look forward to being with each other. Disconnected behavior in love relationships can sometimes look like the following: affairs, addictions to porn, drugs, alcohol or work, emotionally too close to an opposite sex friend, or too involved with a hobby or some activity.
The underlying problem with disconnected behavior is a lack of connection with oneself. Couples who are disconnected find each other. If your partner is disconnected, then you can be sure you are too. This means that you lacked the kind of support and nurturing from your parents that would have allowed you to become an adult who trusts closeness.
The solution is healing your broken heart. When children don’t get the support and nurturing they truly need to stay in touch with their need for connection, their hearts are truly broken. I am willing to bet your heart has been broken too.
Please don’t let another day go by without working on healing your broken heart. By doing this, you can learn to reach out and connect with your partner, instead of demanding that he or she do something you can’t even do yourself.
I can help you. I would recommend that you learn how to fall madly in love with yourself. Your heart was broken because your parents didn’t meet your needs. Your needs fall into five general categories: physical needs, safety and security needs, belonging and acceptance needs, self-esteem needs and self-actualization needs. Healing your broken heart is something you can do as an adult, and it is something that will change every aspect of your life for the better.
With Love and Blessings,
Sandra Dawson, MA
America’s Most Loving Relationship and Trauma Expert
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Saturday, March 15, 2008
How Human Beings Hold Themselves Back
I am continually reminded of the harsh imprint our families and society inflict upon us as children. Those daily discounts and put downs, abuse or neglect, are neatly stored in your unconscious brain, and because they are unconscious, they are rarely paid any attention, unless you are acting out their meanings.
If you are unhappy about anything that seems to be a pattern in your life, you can be absolutely sure that you are stuck in a past belief system that you learned as a child. Leaving those messages alone, and doing nothing about them, is how human beings hold themselves back from one generation to the next.
If your parents loved themselves and each other, because they were taught how to be loving by their own parents, then you are probably not reading my eNewsletter. Whoever you are, you are enjoying a fulfilling career and loving relationships, and continually growing to become all you can be. You don't even understand why others are complaining or having a hard time themselves.
All human beings are born with the potential to learn to meet their needs, but they are not necessarily taught how to do it to create positive outcomes. Since we learned negative ways of living, we can unlearn them. It’s not easy work, but it is very possible and extremely rewarding to go from self-doubt to self-love.
For a detailed step-by-step plan to learn how to love yourself, you can get the 3rd edition of “How to Fall Madly in Love with Yourself” right now by clicking here:
http://www.learnhowtoloveyourself.com
Believe in yourself, expect the best and get it, starting now. You want more and you deserve more. You always have and you always will. Give yourself the gift of 100% self-love now.
With love and blessings,
Sandra Dawson, MA
Love and Relationship Coach
America’s Most Loving Relationship and Trauma Expert
INSTITUTE FOR SELF-LOVE
eBook:
http://www.learnhowtoloveyourself.com/
If you are unhappy about anything that seems to be a pattern in your life, you can be absolutely sure that you are stuck in a past belief system that you learned as a child. Leaving those messages alone, and doing nothing about them, is how human beings hold themselves back from one generation to the next.
If your parents loved themselves and each other, because they were taught how to be loving by their own parents, then you are probably not reading my eNewsletter. Whoever you are, you are enjoying a fulfilling career and loving relationships, and continually growing to become all you can be. You don't even understand why others are complaining or having a hard time themselves.
All human beings are born with the potential to learn to meet their needs, but they are not necessarily taught how to do it to create positive outcomes. Since we learned negative ways of living, we can unlearn them. It’s not easy work, but it is very possible and extremely rewarding to go from self-doubt to self-love.
For a detailed step-by-step plan to learn how to love yourself, you can get the 3rd edition of “How to Fall Madly in Love with Yourself” right now by clicking here:
http://www.learnhowtoloveyourself.com
Believe in yourself, expect the best and get it, starting now. You want more and you deserve more. You always have and you always will. Give yourself the gift of 100% self-love now.
With love and blessings,
Sandra Dawson, MA
Love and Relationship Coach
America’s Most Loving Relationship and Trauma Expert
INSTITUTE FOR SELF-LOVE
eBook:
http://www.learnhowtoloveyourself.com/
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