One of the biggest problems in relationships is the lack of a true connection.
What is a true connection?
It is a desire to be with someone because you want to share yourself with them and you want them to share themselves with you. The experience of sharing is so gratifying that you look forward to being with each other. Disconnected behavior in love relationships can sometimes look like the following: affairs, addictions to porn, drugs, alcohol or work, emotionally too close to an opposite sex friend, or too involved with a hobby or some activity.
The underlying problem with disconnected behavior is a lack of connection with oneself. Couples who are disconnected find each other. If your partner is disconnected, then you can be sure you are too. This means that you lacked the kind of support and nurturing from your parents that would have allowed you to become an adult who trusts closeness.
The solution is healing your broken heart. When children don’t get the support and nurturing they truly need to stay in touch with their need for connection, their hearts are truly broken. I am willing to bet your heart has been broken too.
Please don’t let another day go by without working on healing your broken heart. By doing this, you can learn to reach out and connect with your partner, instead of demanding that he or she do something you can’t even do yourself.
I can help you. I would recommend that you learn how to fall madly in love with yourself. Your heart was broken because your parents didn’t meet your needs. Your needs fall into five general categories: physical needs, safety and security needs, belonging and acceptance needs, self-esteem needs and self-actualization needs. Healing your broken heart is something you can do as an adult, and it is something that will change every aspect of your life for the better.
With Love and Blessings,
Sandra Dawson, MA
America’s Most Loving Relationship and Trauma Expert
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